This might not come as a surprise, but your engineer is NOT really known as a person who inspires those he meets to achieve maximum success in life. This is sad, because your engineer really WANTS everyone to succeed.
So why does he come across as such a mean spirited egocentric abomination of a jerk, you ask?
It’s because he wants others to succeed on his terms, and the best way to help people achieve this success is to tell them honestly about how they might improve themselves in his eye.
Who cares if they weren’t exactly looking for his feedback right now – your engineer knows that feedback delayed is feedback wasted!
Since your engineer has been trained to see problems, he sees them everywhere, including with the company’s rising star, who is right 95% of the time. A 5% failure rate is too much for your engineer, especially since he was likely right on the one occasion where Mr. Rising Star was wrong. Your engineer also can conveniently ignore the 20% of the time where he was wrong himself – after all, that was pure luck for the other guy!
This talent to help others find ways to improve themselves also shows up at home, at church, at your children’s ball game, in fact anywhere where your engineer goes. It’s exactly why everyone loves him so much!
Fortunately, many volunteer organizations need people to work in facilities, and all the engineers end up there, where they can continue to build their social skills by practicing on each other – which is probably as effective as hiring a blind tour guide!
And you need not worry about your engineer losing his job! Because he can solve problems, his company will keep him around so long as they need his skills – and those skills are in short supply. Engineers being in short supply is fortunate for your engineer, and probably for society as a whole since an excess of engineers could be disastrous!
As always, you should be grateful for your engineer. Every one of your friends worries about what they would do if their husband attracted loads of people into their life. You don’t have their problem, now do you?
Finally, be thankful that you didn’t marry an accountant. No matter how bad it might be, your engineer at least has a sense of humor. Smile, and enjoy another day full of wonder.
You are welcome!