Your engineer really does have fond memories that he cherishes – and not just when he first made it to third base with you – although he’s never been able to figure out how that actually happened!
Like you, his memories are attached to significantly emotional positive events in his life – and we know how hard that is to believe!
Unlike you, none of those events has anything to do with people, or did you not read the word “positive” in the previous sentence!
Yes, it’s true. Your engineer remembers his first computer, when he first got an iPhone, and when he first solved a Fast Fourier Transformation problem in the real world (don’t bother even asking him – he couldn’t possibly explain what Fast Fourier Transforms are in any paragraph not involving at least 15 words that you’ve never heard before)!
What can’t he remember? Pretty much anything that you want him to remember – birthdays, children’s names (except for his own children, about whom he waxes poetic!), favorite foods, the directions to your mother’s house,… the list is practically endless.
How can you help? It would be easy for most spouses. You would simply need to get your husband into an emotional state so that the memory is etched into his brain along with the emotion.
But for your engineer? As always, it’s not so simple!
ALL you have to do is get him to feel an emotion! When you do that, let us know, and we’ll try some experiments to see if we can replicate the experience. If we can, we promise to spread your news to every engineer’s spouse in the world. You’ll be a heroine – positively idolized by the suffering masses of other spouses of engineers!
But, enough of THAT daydream. Back to the real world!
As always, you should be grateful for your engineer. Every one of your friends complains about how their husband gets emotional at the wrong times during movies. You don’t have their problem, now do you?
Finally, be thankful that you didn’t marry an accountant. No matter how bad it might be, your engineer at least has a sense of humor. Smile, and enjoy another day full of wonder.
You are welcome!