Patience is a virtue - too bad your engineer is not familiar with it!

The Patient Engineer

Your engineer easily waits on the arrival of good things into his life! He knows that nothing comes to him easily! He had to wait for you, didn’t he? And Lord knows, you’re the best thing that’s EVER happened to him!

While he does understand the need to be patient for gifts, promotions, sex, and the like, there are some areas where your engineer could perhaps use a wee bit of coaching to be able to get along better with his fellow human beings. Okay, those others ARE human beings – assuming that they are not fellow engineers – and this type of problem would never occur between engineers! We’re going to be generous and assume that your engineer aspires to become a normal human being as well!

Here’s the truth – no holds barred! Your engineer does not suffer fools well!

Ya think! No duh!

What about when someone cuts him off in traffic, you ask?

That’s a minor incident to your engineer, although he’s happy to take out his frustrations on that poor excuse for a driver. But, really, that’s just baby stuff even to him, and the emotions are gone within seconds.

Yes, I did just suggest that your engineer has an emotional response to bad drivers! There ARE emotions within that sexy hunk of logical thinking, problem solving genius! It’s just that most of those emotions are NOT positive – but you already know that!

There are times in his life when your engineer has gone truly ballistic – in such a way that even he can never forget the encounter. These incidents are likely to be the only times in his life that prove to him that it’s easier to remember events if you actually feel emotions about them!

For example, how about that time at your work’s Christmas party when someone said something unusual – usually about a taboo topic for such events, such as politics, religion, who’s going to win the next Super Bowl! Whatever they said, it was something that your engineer “knew” was incorrect! You remember it well, don’t you!

Yep, that was HIM all right! Your GENIUS! Arguing with some idiot who just wanted to start an argument so that people would know that HE was still alive! Everyone knows that trick, right? Well, almost everyone!

Subtle nuances of language and social behavior are lost on your engineer! He takes the bait! Hook, line, and sinker! Fully engaged with his brain running in high gear and no filters working on whatever he might say! We bet that he’s STILL apologizing for the embarrassment he caused you!

But, he can’t help it! Really! It’s been trained into him to fight the good fight, even when everyone else thinks he should just shut up and let the issue die!

Being right matters! At least it does to your engineer! It’s almost ALL that’s ever mattered to him! Other than you of course, because how much worse off would he be without you in his life, trying to help him get better?  Are you feeling like Mother Teresa yet? You should! Look at the cross you’ve had to bear.

But then he’s back at home, safely within his social cocoon. You ask him a question that’s been bothering you, and he’ll happily take an hour or two to explain anything to you. Yes, your engineer can be patient, but he knows you are no fool!

As always, you should be grateful for your engineer. Every one of your friends complains about how their husband never stands up for what he believes in! You don’t have their problem, now do you?

Finally, be thankful that you didn’t marry an accountant. No matter how bad it might be, your engineer at least has a sense of humor. Smile, and enjoy another day full of wonder.

You are welcome!