Your engineer is happy to live in his own world – one in which he’s blissfully unaware of
- the carnage he’s wreaked in your social life,
- the opinions of those around him or even
- the goings on with his kids in his own house!
Sometimes it seems as if he simply doesn’t want to hear what you or any of his children, parents or any other well intended (or embarrassed) family members or associates (you should know that he has no real friends, except for other engineers!) tell him. Is it that he doesn’t care, you might ask?
No, he really does care!
In fact, he secretly wants to be the center of attention – okay, change that! He secretly wants to be the positive center of attention, the kind people want to hang around, rather than the kind that everyone jokes about.
It’s just that he has no clue about how to get to be that person! (A statement that he will deny, for reasons we’ll be discussing shortly).
He’s tried in the past – possibly as recently as the last party he was at! And surely you, the suffering spouse – know exactly how that turned out!
Let’s face it. Sometimes it’s best just to ignore the comments and pretend you can’t hear!
Denial has its’ own rewards – especially to the wonder that is your engineer! You didn’t know that success can also be found in never realizing that you failed?
Think about what would happen if he wasn’t in denial – okay work with me here, it wouldn’t actually ever happen, but let’s just pretend that it did!
Just imagine the weight of the self-reflection that would be forced upon him, if he gave even the slightest vestige of importance to the ill-conceived musings of the lesser intellects who dare to cast aspersions upon your engineer’s character, athletic ability, thinking ability, or …
I’m sure you can see how that thinking would surely lead straight to depression!
Just imagine the problems that would entail from a depressed engineer! The intellect to destroy the world, and the anger needed to actually want to do just that!
Clearly, you should stop trying to get him to confront reality. You’re much better to just leave sleeping dogs lie!
As always, you should be grateful for your engineer. Every one of your friends complains about how their husband is constantly prying into areas of their life where he shouldn’t be prying! You don’t have their problem, now do you?
Finally, be thankful that you didn’t marry an accountant. No matter how bad it might be, your engineer at least has a sense of humor. Smile, and enjoy another day full of wonder.
You are welcome!